Example of what your Ilogy could look like:
Mom, you have shown me what unconditional love is and I’ve never once doubted your love for me. Thanks for being proud of me and always seeing the best in me. I hope you know how special you made me feel with your cards, backrubs, and surprises. You have always taken such good care of me, so now I’ll be watching over you.
Dad, thanks for your encouragement and support, and for showing me things I never would have seen otherwise. Some of my life’s greatest adventures were with you. You are a good man. You taught me not to sweat the small stuff, and that it’s okay to take some risks.
To my husband, the man I’ve loved forever. We made a good team, Babe. Thank you for taking such good care of our family and for being a wonderful dad to our children. Some of my favorite memories include you being silly wrestling on the floor with them, and you being serious teaching them how to do new things. I will never forget the first day I saw your handsome smile and how my life was never the same from that day forward. I love you.
To my daughter, you will always be my princess. Being your mom was one of my life’s greatest joys. You have so many exciting things to look forward to, and I will be watching every single milestone from your graduation, to your wedding, to the day you get to experience the joys of motherhood. Never forget the silly times we had singing and dancing in the car, and remember, when you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance!
To my son, you have become an honorable young man just like your dad. Keep fighting for what you want, and hold strong to your faith. When you meet “the one” I hope you’ll treasure her and treat her like a real man should. I am so proud of you. Never forget our practice for your driver’s license. What a day! I’ll be your angel now.
For my friends, what would I have done without you? I am so grateful to have had the kind of friends that I could share anything with. Time between chats, distance between homes, and the business of daily life were no match for our friendship. We were always able to pick up right where we left off. Thanks for the memories of bed jumping, honest sharing, soup kitchen serving, pedicures, and many laughs and tears along the way.
To my co workers, you made work feel like home. It was never a chore to go in, because I knew that you would be there. There were days that I literally thanked God that I got paid to do my job. I can tell you now, I loved it so much, I probably would have done it for free. Keep on laughing and setting the bar so high.
To my church family, I am so grateful to have found you. I hope that you know the difference that you made in my life. Thanks for the smiles and the opportunity to be a part of something bigger than myself. Your servants’ hearts and the Pastor’s lessons literally changed my life.
Enough about my past, you have a future to live, and as someone who has given a lot of thought to your futures, there are a few things that I want to share. James 4: 14 says, “Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a vapor that appears for a little while and then vanishes.” These may sound like dark words, but they contain profound wisdom. We are here for such a short time, so we ought to think about our time and be sure we spend it wisely. I want you to know that if I had my life to live over again I wouldn’t change much, but there are a few things that I might tweak a little…I'd be more aware of my core values and life mission, and less concerned with the reasons why I might not measure up. I’d spend more time reading my bible, and pouring into the lives of others, and less time staring at the TV and computer. I'd be more spontaneous and active, less hesitant and subdued. Instead of being the kind of girl that tip toes her way into the pool, I’d be the girl that make a wave rippling, cannon ball entrance. I’d spend more time enjoying what I have, less time thinking about the things I don't have. I’d say “yes” to more things that weren’t part of my normal routine. I’d travel more to get a greater perspective on what it means to “have” and “have not.” I wouldn’t allow my thoughts to obsess on the past or the future, but I’d force them to really soak in the present. I’d use my eyes, ears, mind, and heart to fully embrace every moment. The good news is that right now, as I am recording this message, my vapor has yet to vanish. Like James 4:14 says, I don’t know what tomorrow holds, and if you’re hearing this message then it means I am no longer there. Until that day though, I have the luxury of living out those statements. If I’ve done life right, they won’t be a list of regrets, and things that I wish I had done. They will be things that you remember me doing. If you could live your life over would you change anything? What would be on your list? Today is a good day to make one, and tomorrow is a perfect day to start living it out. I hope that you will because I look forward to seeing your new chapters unfold.
CONCLUSION: In closing, I leave you with this. As much as I will miss you and as hard as it is to say goodbye, I am prepared to embrace what comes next, and it is the deepest desire of my heart that you would be too. Please don’t be sad that I’m gone, or question why, this is just one small chapter in my book of life. Thank you so much for being the kind of friends and family that made my life on earth one worth living. I love you, and I rejoice in the thought of the time when we get to say hello again. Until then, don’t forget the message of James…Soon this life as we know it shall pass, spend your time making memories that last. It’s only a minute, but eternity’s in it. Make your vapor count!